So Lotus is trying to remove the Evil One from the life that she and her son and husband share.

I told her my binary system for determining how I should proceed with Alex:

tears = actual crying (which he rarely does) = help him out however he needs

no tears = tantrum = let the little shit fend for himself, mama needs a drink and some private time with teh internets

How do you decide when/how to intervene with your little dictators?