Previously, we had a fantastic conversation about blogrolls and how we decide who goes on them. I can honestly say that weeks later, I am still swooning over the conversation that took place in the comments and I’m so excited over how much I learned.
So, today I’m curious about how you look at commenting as a reader – do you comment on every post you read? do you mostly lurk and only comment when really moved to say something?
For me, this is kinda wrapped up in a web of how I pick blogs to read, and how I organize my blog reading – but I’m going to try to tease these things apart into smaller topics and just focus on the commenting today, as best I can.
When I read a blog, I figure if I don’t leave a comment, then the blogger won’t know I was there – I’ll remain a nameless stat on the sitemeter. The author won’t know that I gave a rats ass about their blog – and they might not give a rats ass about mine in return.
I admit it, I’ll say it, commenting is a form of blog marketing. I’m talking friendly ‘hi, I exist’ kind of marketing. Kellan talked about this exact thing a couple of weeks ago, and said it well.
(I’m not even going into spammy comments left on posts that say something along the lines of “I’m blah blah from gnatdesigns.frogknot.com I’m hosting a template contest …” when that has NOTHING to do with the post.)
So, 1st there’s the decision of whether or not to say anything, and then … what to say. If I see that someone already has 70 comments, I know I’m not going to read all the comments, and I doubt that I have anything all that inspiring to add to the conversation. If it’s someone familiar such as Ree or Flutter or Kyla then I know a simple “dude” will do in just about every situation. When I don’t know the blogger as well then how do I go about saying something – or do I just let it go and try again the next time I make it over to read?
I put the commenters over in the sidebar for a couple of reasons – I was curious how many times some people had commented and this was way easier than counting (I’m all about the easy), it might give g00gle juice (I’m honestly not sure) – and I’m thinking about using it in place of my reader for a while. Back in the blogroll discussion there were some who said they use their blogroll in place of a reader and I’m thinking that idea isn’t a bad one at all – we’ll see. I’m thinking on it as an experiment.
Also – if you leave a comment which do you like better – the blogger shooting you an email reply or the blogger visiting your site? I used to do both and then I realized I was making myself crazy and we’re all about the blog guilt free here.
Some of you have mentioned that your name links to an outdated site – some of you may be listed over there under a couple of names – tell me below and I’ll fix it for ya. (I cut off the list at the people who have commented 1 time because of the bloggy giveaways comments taking up so much room)
(If you are interested in the widget (wordpress), it’s the My Top Commentators Widget and you can tweak it to show however many people you want for a set time frame.)
So here we go – I’m curious – what are your thoughts on commenting?
(ed – Sandy (momisodes) has a discussion on this very topic today too!)
54 Comments
Veronica
There are some people I comment on religiously, others who sometimes get a comment and then quite a few I just lurk on.
I like emailing replies to people when they comment, especially first time commenters. However, if I ever start getting mounds of comments, I will reply selectively because no way known am I going to go crazy and spend all my time writing emails.
I do try and visit everyones blog who comments on me, to pass the comment love back round.
Veronica’s last blog post..Vibrator Vibrator Vibrator
frogpondsrock
great post Dawn.. I am sitting here thinking how to best answer this. mmmm..
I love the comments in the sidebar thingy… wow Veronica that is a lot of comments.. hehehehe..
I think my commenting behaviour is a fluid thing.. sometimes I will spend ages thinking about and writing a comment( like now) or other times I will just *wave* or sometimes just not comment.. mmm I will be back when I have thought about this a bit more..
cheers kim
frogpondsrock’s last blog post..*Doh*
Mary Alice
Well, I admit time is at a premium for me so sometimes I read and don’t comment…….which I feel guilty about, because I know I would like everyone who ever reads anything I’ve written to take the time to comment. What a hypocrite huh?
Mary Alice’s last blog post..Jungle Love
witchypoo
Btw, the Top Comments Widget has been having some problems with spammers using vulnerabilities in the code.
You may want to check out what Andy, the go-to geek guy, has to say about it.
http://www.fiddyp.co.uk/spammers-use-top-commentators-vulnerability-to-hijack-top-list/
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magpie
I comment when I have something to add – so, sometimes, sometimes not.
On my own blog, I rarely respond in the comments – if there’s a response warranted, I try to email back. Comments from new people, I try to visit their site at least once.
If I leave a comment at your site, I don’t really expect either a return visit or an email back, but one or the other is nice once in a while.
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Domestic Spaz
I usually only comment if I have something to say, however, on my own blog I live for comments. I love knowing someone read it!
I always visit the blogs of the people who comment on my posts and I’ll try to let them know I’ve been there, too… but I usually won’t just comment to say “Hi”… only if I have something to add.
Domestic Spaz’s last blog post..I’m not supposed to talk about this…
Kyla
I love it when people I read also read my blog, and I try to return the favor, even if it takes me a while to get around to it. I think reading each other’s blogs fosters more of a relationship and understanding of the other person.
I also like the occasional email if the blogger has a reply to a comment I’ve made, because I don’t always check back to their comment section. I personally email someone (if I have their email address) rather than commenting back to them in MY comments, unless it is something that LOTS of people are asking/saying, then I email and comment in my comments. KWIM?
As far as commenting, I almost always comment on posts I’ve read, unless I am too busy, or unless it is a SuperBlogger in which my comment doesn’t matter. LOL. If I read a post and can’t think of a comment and it is one of my regular reads, then I leave it up in a tab until I can get back to it. If I get a stack of posts from the same blogger in my reader, I usually only comment on the newest post, but I might read them all, depending on how much time I have.
Kyla’s last blog post..You know you’re a techie family when…
Kelly O
I mostly read and don’t comment, just because I’ve been insanely busy lately. I assume that everyone else is crazy busy, too, so I don’t get upset if there are few comments.
However, a post with no comments at all is just sad.
Kelly O’s last blog post..Effing DC potholes
Ree
I read (wayyyyyy too many) and try to comment selectively. I comment on sites I read regularly, or if something really speaks to me. I will say, though, that I rarely read ONLY through my bloglines reader. I actually click through to the site because I’m all about the pretty.
I prefer when the writer answers back in email (and it’s what I do), but only because I forget to go back and see if they’ve commented back. I’m old that way. 😉
I do love your comment counter plugin though. I’m thinking about changing my template (I need 3 columns) and adding it at that point.
Ree’s last blog post..Rock Wars
The Other Dawn
I only comment when I think I have something that would truly add to the conversation. In fact, though I have about 100 blogs in my feed reader (translating to reading roughly 35 a day, except NANABOOBOO which blew my mind) I probably only comment two or three times a day.
The Other Dawn’s last blog post..Also?
SJSFalter
Commenting for me comes and goes. Sometimes I feel I need to say something (I always want to say something) and sometimes I just feel like I shouldn?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢t. I lurk for sometime before I step out of the box on some blogs and others I?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢m just moved to say something the first time.
As for my own comments?¢‚Ǩ¬¶I suck at responding. I read them and find that I don?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢t have the time to respond so I don?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢t. Being on blogger the only response you can give is right back in comments so I wonder if people even look at that. I know I don?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢t usually go back to check what someone said in reply to me.
Yeah and that?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢s as far as my brain can remember of this subject so Ill step down and let the conversation continue.
SJSFalter’s last blog post..The Reason Behind This Blog…
IntheFastLane
I have organized my reader into three sections: my blog “friends” almost always get a comment on their posts, as long as I have time and am staying up with my blogs and they almost always comment on mine. But, today…when I have 96 updated blogs on my reader, I might be a a little pickier as to where I comment. I have a group of “Hummm….” blogs. These are blogs that I sometimes comment on or new blogs that I haven’t decide whether I want to form a relationship with or not yet. Then I have three blogs that I read but never comment on, partly because they already get lots of comments and partly because they have never made any indication that they know who I am, but I am not ready to give them up entirely.
I don’t usually comment on people’s comments because I know that I have a hard time going back to the comment section once I have left one. If there is a comment that I really would like to respond to, I try to do that through e-mail. I tried Blogger’s “subscribe to comment” thingy, but that just got to be too much in my e-mail inbox. I have a few blog friends that respond with an e-mail and it really makes you feel like what you said counted. But, it does not need to be all the time. That would be too much.
IntheFastLane’s last blog post..Why I Love Two-Year-Olds
Julie D.
I try and comment most times. Sometimes I have nothing to say. I have alot of people coming to my blog, but they don’t comment, which makes me sad.
Julie D.’s last blog post..Update on my leg
Ewokmama
I generally only comment if I can say something interesting or contribute in some way. Sometimes I just can’t think of anything to say!
Ewokmama’s last blog post..Settled
Mom Chatter
Great question! I must say that I agree with much that’s already been said…
My blog reading time is VERY limited lately, so I comment infrequently (mostly ’cause I’ve been reading in a reader). If The Kids are giving me some space, then I’m more likely to comment… though most of the time if I’m on the computer, they start acting CRAZY. I try to comment on stuff that really perks my interest.
I suck at responding on comments on my blog… which is sad since there are so few, but I try. I’m never sure what to do about them anyway. I read them… and I usually TRY to get over to their site to comment. I guess that’s how I respond… visit their site and comment, but I haven’t been very good about emailing a response or responding on my comments section. I like when people send an email response though. I rarely go back to check other’s comment sections once I’ve left my comment though.
That’s all I got for you…
Mom Chatter’s last blog post..The Boy wants to play in the…
Kara
These questions are things I still struggle with until December, I only blogged on my personal myspace page. I had two categories of readers, people who knew me personally and sometimes commented and strangers who were not allowed to comment.
When I joined blog life outside of myspace I had a hard time picking up on the ettiquette and then I learned that everyone has their own style. So right now I try and comment on the blogs I read regularly at least once a week. I always feel weird commenting on sites that have “commentLuv” when I haven’t updated my own blog since the last 2 or 3 comments, but that’s just me. I always check out the blogs of people who comment on my site and try and leave a comment if I can sound intelligent and not just obligatory.
I get my comment warm fuzzies by playing along with the Meet N Greet at http://www.micheleagnew.com/main/
As for bloggers responding to my comments, I’m always surprised by an email, especially when I am like the 60th commenter, I never know if they wrote everyone or if I really am just that special, and I don’t know which I’d prefer. Weird I know. I very rarely check back to see if I got a response in the blog, unless it is the site of the one blogger I know personally.
Typing all that out didn’t make it any clearer to me. Still trying to find my way in the maze of blogs and comments.
Kara’s last blog post..Atta Boy
Red
I usually don’t comment. Part of that is time — I read this blog first thing in the morning, but others only when I get time free at lunch. Part of it is being part of the conversation. Sometimes I read a really interesting post, but I don’t have anything to add (say, if it’s about kids & I don’t have any), or can’t think of anything I want hundreds of people to read or whatever.
Then again, I don’t have a blog, so my situation is a little different.
Lisa (the girls' moma)
1. When I have something valuable to add to the convo.
2. When I am missing my blogfriend and want to say Hi.
That’s about the only time I comment.
Today, I am typing in this little box for both reasons. 🙂
Lisa (the girls’ moma)’s last blog post..Tag: Page 123
Kara
P.S. I added you to my blogroll, why I didn’t before, I’m not sure. I always meant to.
Kara’s last blog post..Atta Boy
MP
Hey..I guess by the number on the side you can tell I comment here alot. I don’t comment on EVERY post that you do, only the ones I read..
I read most of them.
I return I hope that you read my blog and comment when you feel the urge. I LOVE comments since it’s like having a discussion. I then in return keep coming back to your blog or if I need to leave a comment on my own blog.
I don’t care for it when I leave a comment on someone’s blog and then they shoot me an email that says..thanks for the comment or makes a remark about my comment..unless of course there is a discussion or something.
There are blogs I read such as Pioneer Woman, Dooce, Boobs Injuries and Dr Pepper..those are people that don’t read my blog. I don’t normally leave them comments..I still read but I don’t feel the need to comment because I dont’ think they care if I leave a message.
YOU, Sarcastic Mom, Slouching Towards 40 etc..You are people that actually come visit me. I’m all about commenting.
I have all the blogs I read marked as favorites in my browser, that is how I read every day. When I realize that person never comes by…I eventually delete them and dont’ read anymore. After someone is on my favorites for a while and becomes a new bloggie friend I add them to my blogroll. I use my blogroll as my reader at home since I hate my browser at home and don’t know how to set my favorites.
Did I answer all of your questions. I love that thing to the side but I don’t think I’m changing to wordpress anytime soon…so I guess I’ll just keep things the way they are.
🙂
MP’s last blog post..MP Book Review
LSM
I try to comment when I think I have something to add to the discussion, though I’ll admit I’m sometimes intimidated by a blog that receives huge numbers of daily comments. I appreciate people who comment on my blog and always reciprocate. Hey, I’ve made some great bloggy friends that way. 🙂
LSM’s last blog post..I Am The Decided
Audubon Ron
I get to you from work, my work has DSL, my home line is a Green Acres slower than smoke line. So you won?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢t get much attention from me during the weekend. I visit your site pretty much every day. Sometimes I have some wild ass things to add, sometimes I just say I?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢m passing through because honestly, there are just some chick things I ain?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢t got a clue about.
Mostly my point of view is acidic. You will want to eat ice cream after. Why? Cuz just like eating a lot of hot peppers, the next day you will be sitting on the co-mode pleading, ?¢‚Ǩ?ìCome?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢on ice cream!?¢‚Ǩ¬ù
I do quid pro quo. If you stand reading one of my epistles, I will force to read one of yours, but know it?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢s a tremendous act of love and I usually expect sexual favors for it later. ?جÅ?â€
I actually do my best work with comments. Not much time for blogg?¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢in and who really gives a royal shit what I say? Why anyone likes me is still a mystery to me.
Audubon Ron’s last blog post..From Ronbeaux’s Cajun Cookbook
Missy
I like to comment occasionally I like to say “hi” when I first start reading the blog, then comment every now and then to let you know that I am still reading.
Since my blog does not have very many readers, I am always happy to get a comment back versus an email response.
Missy’s last blog post..Black and White Morning
Jennifer
Another fun post, Dawn! Okay. I don’t comment on every post I read. I typically read anywhere from 30-100 posts on days that I’m just hanging around the house. It would be impossible to comment everywhere.
One of the reasons I switched to WP was so that I could respond to EVERY comment. That lasted one day. I cannot respond to every comment. I try to respond to people who’s names/urls I don’t recognize. If they come back more than once I try to visit their site. Most of my favorite reads are people I’ve found because they commented on my site.
As a person who somehow gets high numbers of comments (why???!!! I’m honored.), I want people to know that whether you’re the first or fortieth comment, I read each one and love to get the feedback. With that said, I am less likely to comment on someone’s post that has tons of comments…it’s not like I usually have anything earth stattering to add.
Jennifer’s last blog post..I Think Someone Needs to Lay Off the Taco Dip (and Pizza and Ice Cream and Butter?¢‚Ǩ¬¶)
Candy
Hmm…very interesting. I would say I try to comment, but if someone has 652 comments, i.e. Pioneer Woman, I don’t bother. No one is ever going to read it, it’s like pissing into the ocean to change the salt content.
If a person has, say, over 50, I probably will pass and try to be earlier next time. Because I will personally read the first, maybe 10, comments, and then give up.
I comment for much the same reason you do. “Hi, I was here, this is me, I like what you had to say, maybe you’d find my site amusing.”
Candy’s last blog post..Sufragette City
Natalie
Hmmm, well, lemmee see.
I will usually leave some kind of a comment on most of the blogs that I read regularly . If I don’t it’s either because I couldn’t come up with something to say, or the subject is something I have no opinion on. I also comment on “big” blogs, even if there are 300 comments if I feel like there is something I can contribute, and sometimes if I just want to talk. One of my readers found me through Dooce, so it’s not a lost cause in that arena either. I think there may be others who found me through Pioneer Woman. I appreciate the big blogs because the comments section opens up a gazillion more blogs for me to peruse, and since I don’t use a reader, I don’t have an overabundance of posts to read every day.
Anyway, on the subject of the author commenting back to me? I like it regardless of which format it comes in. I am horrible at it myself, I usually visit their blog instead of writing something back to them. I figure they’ll appreciate a comment back more.
Natalie’s last blog post..A Girl?s Eye View of the Super Bowl
Jenty
I must say, I try comment on every post I read, but sometimes I juat have plain nothing to say!!
As for me responding to comments on my blogs, I know I’m bad, but I read every one and giggle at some of them, but I’m just bad at responding.
Jenty’s last blog post..Was supposed to be an easy checkup
jenni
I do try to comment on most posts that I read. I, like others, do not usually comment if there are 75 ahead of me, unless I have something important to add or if it is an engaging conversation.
I’m hosted by Blogger, so it is impossible to email directly back to a commenter. Therefore, I try to visit each commenter. I usually will add them to my reader and read for a few days before deciding whether to add permanently or not. I change my reader very frequently, but I only add to my blogroll when I’ve determined I really like someone’s writing.
I wish I could be like Lotus and email every single commenter (and I get far, far fewer than her), but with homeschooling 4 kids, I barely have time to read all my feeds, much less email every responder.
One thing I do make sure of, if I’m reading someone who gets very few to no comments, I try to make sure I always give them some comment love. I know how nice it is!
Linda
Good post, Dawn. I comment when I think I have something to add to the conversation. However, if it’s a new blogger…I try to at least say hello and de-lurk for a moment.
I don’t expect blogger on whose site I’ve commented to email me back…but I am tickled when they at least stop by my place.
Loralee
Comments are very important to me. I love to receive them and I love the give them.
It has gotten a lot harder to balance everything as my blog has grown, but I hope that I can still keep up. I know I’ll try.
This is a great topic, btw.
Loralee’s last blog post..Sideblog: There?s a hole in my Flickr, dear Liza, dear Liza*?
the dragonfly
I try to comment. Sometimes I don’t because I don’t have anything to add and don’t want to sound stupid by repeating everyone else. 🙂 And other times (most often) I’m pressed for time and reading but not commenting because I have a baby who, while not high maintenance, is just starting to “get into” things. [by “things”, read “trouble”] So…while I try, I don’t always leave a comment. If someone cured my insomnia, thereby making my brain function at a reasonably normal level during the day, I would very likely comment much more!
the dragonfly’s last blog post..super tuesday
Kelley
Hmmm, interesting….
I have asked this a couple of times on my blog. In the early days and recently. Both times my peeps have given me a resounding YES to commenting back to them in the comments and they prefer me to go and comment on a post they did rather than email a response.
Interesting that a few people that participated in that conversation are saying different here. It is KILLING ME trying to do both! LOL!
I have the top commentors plugin. It is FAB!!! I am all about rewarding the like 5% of visitors that actually comment!!!
Kelley’s last blog post..Oh. Ooops!
flutter
I am a fan of commenting. I always look forward to the insight of others when I am trying to process something. Also, most of my readers are funnier and smarter than I am, so hell take over! 😉
flutter’s last blog post..a mighty conglomerate of bridge trolls
MamaGeek
I love flutter’s response. I don’t comment on every post I read simply because of the time factor.
I try to respond to commenters on my blog back on their blog when I can. But when the comment is so fantastic, that makes me want to comment and subscribe. Tis true.
MamaGeek’s last blog post..Sour Flower
HRH
I love the comment, but don’t comment on everything. I think my thought process about it is similar to yours. I do like your magical comment wiget thing! Very cool.
HRH’s last blog post..Freely giving away priceless advice…
Sleeping Mommy
There are times in my life when I just don’t have time to comment so I am very selective of who I click through from my reader to leave a comment with. If I don’t feel I have something pertinent or supportive to offer in comments I will definitely skip leaving a comment.
I respond to comments through email if it’s something about the comment that they left. Or if I just want to say thanks for visiting or whatever. But I do try to follow comments to the blog on a regular basis and definitely if its someone who is commenting for the first time. I want to get to know who’s reading and taking the time to leave a comment.
Sleeping Mommy’s last blog post..Super Tuesday
Sleeping Mommy
Oh and I forgot to add. Thanks so much for crediting me in the Troll policy. 🙂
Sleeping Mommy’s last blog post..Super Tuesday
Jen
I usually only comment when I feel like I have something to add to the conversation. The irony of that is that if I commented more deliberately on other people’s sites I would no doubt get more comments on my own, which would make me really happy.
This is where your “comments as blog marketing” thing comes in. Problem is, I hardly have time to post on my own blog, let alone read tons of other blogs AND comment on them. I wish I did, but I just don’t.
Jen’s last blog post..Yes we can.
zoe
i have blogger guilt. first i love comments. i think we all do. i try to comment on every post i read. but when i get behind that is nearly impossible. when someone comments on my blog i send them an e-mail response if i have their email and i usually visit their blog. i know some people respond in their comments but i rarely have. my blogroll is basically people who read and comment on my blog. i have found a good majority of the blogs that i read from other peoples blogrolls so i think they are some what effective.
zoe’s last blog post..The error of my ways
Kellan
I try to comment on every site I visit – that’s just me. I respond to everyone that comments on my site. I feel that, if I took the time to read someone’s post, then I have some sort of feeling about it and I should let them know what I think. I have found no one – no one – that does not like comments and if I can contribute to their “happy moment” then I can do that. It doesn’t take all that long to leave a comment. If I have absolutely nothing to say – and it does happen – I don’t leave a comment. It is all marketing – all of it. It’s good for the one leaving the comment and it is good for the one receiving the comment. I think we all want our words acknowledged – our stories – and hearing what people have to say is what blogging is all about – interaction – right? That’s just what I think – but, what do Iknow.
BTW – I came by yesterday or the day before and I didn’t realize that your post was lower on the page and I was sort of lost – then I figured it out today – sorry – I missed you the other day. See you later and thanks for coming by and leaving me a comment – I’m always happy to see you. Kellan
Sarcastic Mom
Haha… maybe I don’t even need to say what I do? Does everyone already know? *snark, snark*
So, here’s my deal. Way back in the olden days, before I ever even knew the word, “blog,” I was a horrible person who didn’t respond to others well. I got emails, I read them, but I often didn’t reply to them. I got phone calls, I didn’t answer, I got messages, I didn’t call back. It’s this whole Social Anxiety thing. It’s just a little bit (*snort*) inherited.
I’ve learned things over time and relationships, and in my wise old years I am trying really hard to be a better human being who shows others that their time is worth mine.
SO. All of that to say that the reason why I have always tried to respond to the comments I get (both when I was on Blogger and now on WP) is that I want every person to know that I valued the time they spent on me, and would like to reciprocate it.
I have been giving myself a bit more of a pass on answering every single comment in email lately (sometimes I just need to step away from the computer, you know?) – but I still tend to lean towards the heavy hand on that. I also try to make my rounds and leave comments on blogs and on profile pages when I can.
All that being said, it’s hard to please everyone. Some like the emails (I’ve actually built some great friendships through emails), some I now see would rather not have the email, but get a comment. Argh!
Regardless, I would hope that I’ve let each one of my commenters know, in some way, that it really means a lot to me that they left me a comment. Like Jennifer said, it REALLY doesn’t matter what “number in line” you hold. Comment #41 gets the same attention from me that Comment #4 does. Kind words, good suggestions, and support from friendly human beings out there in the world?
Never gets old.
I’ve had times where I read through my comments and Comment #41 made me tear up. I’m so glad Commenter #41 wasn’t turned off by the comment tally.
As for my commenting behavior, I’m all over the place. I have some blogs I read and comment religiously, some I read and comment sporadically (but continuously)… and then I have about 300 other blogs I subsrcibe to that I flit in and out of. I do read sometimes without saying anything, just because I don’t have time. I comment back to some of my commenters, I email back to most.
I also send spam to everyone and beg for votes when I’m nominated for something. And I offer sexual favors and monkey dances in return for kindnesses. So really, I am NOT the one to go to to figure out how to do something PROPERLY.
And that was my “Blog in Blog” for today.
Much love,
Lotus:)
Sarcastic Mom’s last blog post..First, I totally bore you with the medical stuff?¢‚Ǩ¬¶ then, Pee Pee!
Sarcastic Mom
HOLY SHIT THAT REALLY WAS THE LONGEST COMMENT EVER.
*ahem*
Sarcastic Mom’s last blog post..First, I totally bore you with the medical stuff?¢‚Ǩ¬¶ then, Pee Pee!
merrymishaps
Well, I don’t always comment because I’m currently reading (trying to read?) way too many blogs …
I do try to drop a note regularly to bloggers who “know” me to let them know I’m still there, but I admit I am a lurker in places, too!
Blogversary
I believe in returning comment love is someone comments on my site. I don’t sweat it though, if I don’t get back to someone right away. I have to do things at my pace.
Blogversary’s last blog post..pms has nothing on a sick 2 year old
Random Ramblings
Wow, I’m sure after this many comments there won’t be anything new coming from me…
Oh well, I’ll comment anyway. 🙂 I have been trying to cut back my blog time lately. I read a few people that I know in real life daily, and others a little less frequently. I try to comment just to say “hi, I’m thinking of you and your rockin’ blog!” But there are times where I read, see a large number of comments already, and think I’ll come back later when its not so busy.
Because I started out with Blogger (and you can’t email reply to comments), I don’t expect a response when I do speak up. Nor do I really expect people to have the time to hop over to my blog and read the randomness that comes out of my head! Although it is nice!!! 😉
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Sandy (Momisodes)
OMG!! this is hilarious 🙂 I can’t believe we posted the same thing, hahahahah!
I linked back to you as well 😉
We should check each other’s wardrobe out and see if we’re wearing the same thing!
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Trish
Good post, lots to think about.
I like commenting on other people’s blogs, but I get self conscious when my comment ends up being a long story all about me. It’s like interrupting somebody mid-conversation and steering the discussion around to me. My mother does that all the time and it does my head in.
So I’ll comment if I have something to say about the post, but if it inspires anything more than about this much, I’ll go and write it on my own blog.
Thanks for visiting my blog, by the way! Lovely to meet you.
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candace
I’m trying to read all these great comments! But now I have to go to pre-school! this is the problem with me trying to read and comment which I LOVE to do but that damn life thing keeps getting in the way!
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janet
ah, i’m waaaaaaaaaay down the line here. but — i’m sure my comment and opinion are totally valued so here ya go 😉
i read tons o’ blogs and i try to comment because i know how much i like it when i get them myself.
but i do admit to NOT commenting on the big-gun blogs cuz i just feel insignificant if i’m 457th in line. i also got into a long email exchange with a big-gun type recently after a particular poignant post — and it ended kinda badly. i tend to shy away as a result.
but comments? they’re like crack. i’m addicted, and i figure if i give some to my friends, they’ll give back.
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Avery
What a great post!
It’s kind of a touchy subject for me right now because I’m finding myself falling further and further behind in my blog reading BECAUSE I comment on every blog I visit. And now I don’t know why. I don’t want to be tied to my blog, or to my reader, but that’s exactly what’s happening.
In the beginning, it was all about getting the numbers up. It was a status thing, I suppose. But now I feel stuck because I don’t want anyone to think I don’t appreciate them taking the time to read my blog. I reply to their comments on my blog, and I try to get around to all their blogs, too. But, as I’m sure you can attest, I’m not doing a very good job of it. So, something’s got to give.
I blog for relationships, but I’m not great at giving back.
But, having said that, I did come to tell you I have something for you on my blog. (Does that help just a little?)
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