(This post is the first I’ve written about this. And yes, I talk a little about it and then head into a product review. Forgive me. Talking about it at all is hard, and this review opportunity was an icebreaker for me to begin writing to you about the last few months.)
So. You might have heard by now that Scout and I are almost not married anymore. As in, it is completely possible the courts have completed our paperwork and we are, indeed, not married, but have not received the paperwork yet.
Which is strange and sad and several other words that I don’t have the energy to type.
Which is why I have been mostly silent.
Scout and I have been known for many things, one of which has been our yearly holiday letter. We’ve spent the afternoon of Thanksgiving crafting our warped little recap of the last 12 months – and this year we won’t be doing that.
Or any other year.
November and Thanksgiving are looming.
So how the eff do I launch out Christmas cards this year?
It’s the little changes.
Then the Clever Girls said, “Hey want to review some holiday cards for us?” and I said, “Heck yeah because looking at pretties is a lot easier than most of the rest of my world.” and off I went to look at pretty holiday photo cards.
Given that my sense of humor is more than slightly warped – Each of these cards made me smile.
Why yes, each of these are BLACK Christmas Cards. “Noir” actually, which is even better. Scanning the cards, all the happy nuclear families made me melancholy – but check out that last one. A happy mommy and her kiddo. A little promise that joy is around – even in the Noir.
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This post is part of a series sponsored by Shutterfly. I was selected for this sponsorship by the Clever Girls Collective, which endorses Blog With Integrity, as I do.
Sorry to read of the divorce. I’ve been through one of those. I wish I had pearls of comforting thoughts on the transitions that lay ahead but I don’t b/c it all sucks. Even divorced ten years with seven remarried has not dissolved those binding ties made long ago to a person, her family and to all those photo albums that by now have found burial at the bottom of a landfill – somewhere.
I have recently received news my ex signed up for a subscription of eHarmony.com and located a suitable mate matching 90-something percent of those things compatible. He is ten years her senior in age, I am ten years younger. I read on her Facebook page that in the course of just a few short months he took her on the â€œbest dateâ€ of her life, while I never achieved that recognition in the entire 21 years of marriage. How could I let that go by without good report?
My current wife and I met similarly on a dating website called Udate. We knew each other three days, and then threw caution to the wind owing to lonely frustration and a chronic dose â€œI Keep Dating Weirdoesâ€ and got married. We went on a honeymoon that lasted two weeks and on the way home got into an argument (fight really) that lasted two years. Itâ€™s getting better but we had to finally abandon the Addams Family BDSM attire if we wanted to consider moving into something that resembled real-er love. (A few strands of lamp cord are always readily handy in case we fall off the wagon 🙂
My current wife often tells me we are a big ZERO in the compatibility and harmony department. That means, this marriage has a better than average chance of working. No expectations. What it is, is what it is.
Your friend, for going on a long time now,
P.S. I hope Iâ€™ve made you feel better.
I’m so sorry. Hope you’re doing OK.
Jene (AKA Lily's Mom)
I am so sorry to hear about the divorce. I am sure it will be rough, but I am confident that your strength will get you through this. I will pray for you and for Alex.
Kelley @ Magnetoboldtoo
Love you sweetie.
I am considering skipping Christmas this year.
So I get how you are feeling.
I’m sorry honey. When life becomes so painful, I withdraw from blogging. All of a sudden, I looked up and saw that I had hardly blogged for about the last year and a half.
I’m trying to pull myself out, and came in to check in on you. I am glad I came to check in when I did. You and I used to connect in so many similar parallels.
You are a strong lady. I vote you still make a sadistic Christmas letter….and post it here. No reason you must give up on the ENTIRE tradition. 😉
Email me if you need to talk, and I will shoot you my numbers.
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I would skip Christmas this year if it weren’t for Cam. It’s just a weird time.
Hang in there. We’ll hold hands through the cah-ray-zee.