I’m not saying my gut work or my listening work or my forgiveness work is done, but I think I have learned the hard lessons, the basic lessons.
The next part is to work on some clearing out of the old.
Which for me will very much take shape as literally cleaning house.
I have too much shit. Too many projects. Too much clutter.
Everyone who has ever lived with me will agree.
It makes me hard to live with.
And how unfair.
I am my own worst enemy when it comes to making a home.
One of the very most important things to me is having a home where I feel comfortable and the rest of world feels welcome.
But no one feels comfortable because of all my shit thrown everywhere.
So my next project is to clear out the crap to make room for the joy.
I started with my car.
Which was strangely painful. I found little things that reminded me of the life with the Dude. And I set some of them aside, and a lot I threw away.
I kept what was needed and dumped out the crap.
I have a bad habit of getting distracted when it comes to house cleaning. I start and then end up spending hours organizing socks, or the utensil drawer, or whatever. My goal in home-making is the same one you’re talking about, though, which is having a cozy place where people are comfortable. Strangely, this seems to have nothing to do with whether or not my CDs are alphabetized.
My current plan is a 10 minute tidy each morning and a weekly cleaning that is just the basics: toilets clean, things dusted, vacuuming done. I basically pretend I’ve been hired to clean someone else’s house. Obviously this “someone else” wouldn’t want me going through their underwear drawer, so that’s not part of my Thursday routine. That seems to keep the house tidy enough for people to sit down and have a glass of tea. Then I can take my afternoons when it’s a-hundred-and-crap degrees here to do the organizing projects that are my downfall.
I’ve been trying to do the same, but I can’t let go of all the fucking junk in my life. And if that ain’t symbolic, I don’t know what is.
You can do this! It’s frustrating at first but take it one drawer at a time. Get part of the house the way you like it, maintain it, and then move on to another part. Figure out what you can purge (which is hard I know and something I’m doing right now so that I can refinish my basement) and then purge it. You’ll feel sooo much better when you’re done 🙂