(There are many things that this particular post is NOT meant to be, such as: mean spirited, sour grapes, bitter or petty. The things that I ask should be read with a “no really, I’m curious, and want to know your opinion” tone of voice, not a “why the eff would you ever do something like that” tone of voice. Just something to keep in mind as you read.)
In high school, there were the popular girls. We called them preppy. There were two or three groups of them – the pretty girls who were cheerleaders or pom squad or athletes, with the jock boyfriends and the right clothes and the full social calendar, including every dance of course. We knew about their sex lives, because it was a small school and things like that were whispered during choir class. They were never considered to be slutty however, serial monogamy starting at age 14 for these girls.
While I was in the fray of high school, I was the smart girl. I was that girl who would have been really pretty if she’d had a clue about hair and makeup, and was down about 10 or 20 pounds. Oh, and who had the motivation to get ready for school every single morning, rather than throwing on something comfortable and heading out. My boy-friend (not necessarily my “boyfriend” but to even begin to explain THAT particular relationship is more than I need to get into here) was one of the cool guys (aka “The Dudes”) so I spent a lot of time with them, which brought me into the sphere of these popular girls. I never would have considered myself their friend. I thought I was rather invisible and unknown in high school.
Fast forward to a reunion (what number is *so* irrelevant.) I think I talked to every single person there. I left that night with the feeling of perhaps I’d been better liked or better known in high school than I had thought.
But back to those popular girls. Those popular girls who I wanted to know about so much, who I assumed were better than me and who I would periodically try to get them to notice me.
This is the part where I want to be sure that no one thinks I’m trying to be an ass. Here’s the part where I really am looking for alternate points of view.
Check out that paragraph in italic above again. This is comparable to how I feel about some of those A Lister bloggers out there who can make their living on their blog ad revenue. (Or at least enough of a living to finance a shoe habit.) Who may or may not have comments turned on and who may or may not ever visit my site.
Ya’ll know my blogroll point of view. So taking that – tell me – those of you who read those A Lister blogs (see me not naming names?) – Do they know your blog? Your story? Do they visit you? Email you? Comment you?
Specifically, do you blogroll them if they never know your blog, never know your story? And if you do – why?
Hmmm…..I think there are three blogs on my blogroll that I have never had a comment from…..I don’t know if they’ve ever come over and lurked. Two are published writers, and the third is working on a book. I read all three blogs long before I started mine, and I blogroll them because I laugh there, and think my readers (omg! I have readers!) might laugh there too.
I’ve only been blogging 2 months though, maybe in a year I’ll be more popular than all of them! Yeah right. LOL!
Badness Jones’s last blog post..A Guest Post – by Bad
I know where you are coming from.
We called them the A group and they hated us. Maybe because we were well liked, rather than being the cool kids, who knows.
I like your reciprical blogroll idea. Some of the people on my blogroll never visit me, but they make me laugh so I include them.
Alot of the time, I feel a bit odd commenting on their blogs, kind of like I am lost in a sea of hangers-on, but by the same token, if I never comment then they have no idea who I am. It’s a fine line.
I would love to be able to be ‘one of them’ though. Dearly love to know how they do it and what their secrets are.
Veronica’s last blog post..How I Came To Be Doing What I?m Doing. Part 3
I only follow one A-lister blogger, because I’ve read her book and I’ve followed it for a few years now. But, I don’t comment on it anymore. one of the main reasons is her site is so busy that it’s damn slow to comment on, so I couldn’t be bothered because I know she won’t read mine.
Jenty’s last blog post..Face painter at Sandton City
A list.. B list Who gives a fack?? really… I link to blogs I like..
If someone comments I will then go and check them out. for 3 or 5 blogs…and if they bore me.. I dont go back.. It is as simple as that..
I only comment though.. If I feel the post has made me want to comment.. xxx
kisses and hugs to you Dawn.. Rocks and flat tires to those who make anyone feel like this is a competition….
kim’s last blog post..Yesterday was one of those days..
The only people on my blog roll are people to whom I’m committed to reading on a daily basis and with whom I’ve developed a ‘relationship’ (whatever that means). They’ve commented, I’ve commented and maybe at some point we’d have a cup of coffee. I’m not for the gratuitous filling of the blogroll.
My blogroll is kind of irrelevant b/c I switched to a reader now. There are a lot of blogs on my roll that I found in the beginning of my now-10-month-old blogging career, when I was using the blogroll to navigate blogland, but that was then.
I’m still sensitive to the whole linking thing so I haven’t purged my blogroll yet (that will come!), but I keep reimagining the place blogging has in my life, and I’m not interested in reading a blog if I don’t also feel a sense of community there and I keep my own profile low because I don’t want to wind up with huge obligations in blogland I can’t keep up with. I have that in real life already, you know?
Anyway, I often purge my reader of blogs where I only lurk. I try to keep the blogroll updated so my regular commenters can find each other from my page. But otherwise I ignore it.
Sheila’s last blog post..The schoolgirl with her first braids
Like you, I blogroll and add to my feed people who blogroll me. I don’t blogroll the A-list bloggers, because I assume no one needs me to point them their way, not necessarily because I don’t read them. But, if I’m busy, I’ll only read the ones that I’ve personally met. Or, make that, “met.”
I see the blogroll as being kind of a network, not a list of who I read daily. More like, it’s a big room where everyone is just hanging out, going about their daily business, and it’s interesting to see who knows who.
Kelly O’s last blog post..Trying a new way to work
I’ve kind of forgotten I even have a blogroll. I haven’t updated it in awhile. I use a reader, so the only blogs I access thru my blogroll are the ones that don’t have an RSS feed. (And there are a couple out there.)
I don’t link to A-list bloggers either. Only to the people who link to me, or who I feel a connection with, who have blogs similar to mine. I’m not linking just to link.
Avery’s last blog post..The Long Post Wherein I Interview Lovey
I never really thought about it that way… I was one of the smart/quiet/yet kind of intriguing girls in school–most people liked me I think. But I was never EVER part of the A group! I guess I started my blogroll as a list of blogs that I like to read then added on some blogs that I hadn’t gotten the chance to read yet (but thought that I might like). I just went back and looked at my list and found at least five that have been on there for months and I still haven’t checked them out. Time to purge. I honestly don’t know who the A list bloggers are (besides maybe one) because I am not that cool. 🙂
Random Ramblings’s last blog post..I?m So Tired?
Hydes Like Us
I agree with your point of view completely—
although I do have one on my blogroll that if she ever visited me- I would just die! I just doubt she’s got time. (or the desire!)Ah…the cool kid. Ok, I’ll tell you here name…Catherine Newman…my favorite. But other than her?
I agree with you completely.
Hydes Like Us’s last blog post..If I Say Pretty Please??
I think I have one or two on my list, from Ye Olden Days of blogging, before I found my little circle out here. I’m lazy with the blogrolling.
I’ve met Sweetney and Amalah at a thing, Amy and I have emailed a teeny bit (teeny!). I met Yvonne from Joy Unexpected at BlogHer. And I was shocked that she recognized me from across the room. Rachel Coleman from Signing Time (she’s like our personal rockstar around here, LOL) has commented on my blog before and so has Catherine Newman. But I don’t view those blog relationships like I do my other blog friends. I think a big part of blogging is symbiosis and reciprocation. It isn’t necessary, but it is a huge part of it for me. I don’t comment on those sites nearly as often as I do on the ones I am “involved” in so to speak, where there is a level of personal connection that draws me in.
Kyla’s last blog post..A history with Santa
Not sure I understand the question.
I like you. So, ?¢‚Ç¨?ìdon?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢t go chang?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢in to try and please me…?¢‚Ç¨¬ù
I was an actor/dancer/gymnast in high school. I did two shows a year, two ballets a year, had a permanent hall pass, won fourth in state in gymnastics, won a writing contest landing me a partial scholarship to LSU, was drafted into American Ballet Theater in 1975 for two years on scholarship, modeled cloths for Oscar de la Renta men?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢s fall line in 1977, left all that, became an ASE certified bodyman in a body shop, was appointed body shop manager at the ripe old age of 22, moved to LA, studied guitar, wrote songs, recorded in a recording studio for a song writer, played in a beach band, got married, moved to San Francisco, got a new job, got promoted at the ripe old age of 25 and supervised a district of 75 people, got promoted to regional manager at 30, became an avid bass fisherman, played golf, had a 6 handicap, divorced, got born again at 44, graduated with a BS in Accounting, married again, retired at 48 years old, got bored, became Director of this agency I work for now, was special featured in a state business journal last year, just read in this month’s journal more stuff about me, have four ducks and two cats, begging my wife for her to buy her a new car cuz her’s is causing a global warming panic from all the buring oil all by itself but she wants a car that “fits right.” (Okay Mario Andretti!). How much begging would you let your husband do to make you go buy a new car?
So what?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢s to know?
I like you, that?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢s what.
Audubon Ron’s last blog post..Ground Hog Day
I have a couple blogs that I have in my reader, that I read almost everytime they post. But, it seems that if they are reading me, then they don’t ever comment. That is ok with me, but I do not usually comment on other blogs unless I feel some sort of reciprocal relationship. I guess, I feel, why should I spend my time and thoughts commenting to just have my comments lost in a sea of 50 other comments? I do have a couple blog “friends” who became popular after I started commenting and they still make time to visit and comment. My blogroll, however hasn’t really changed much. I do add and subtract from my reader frequently. And my blog friend’s section of my reader is public.
IntheFastLane’s last blog post..Ways I am Putting my Student Loans to Good Use
BTW, you are on my reader and I lurk here a lot. Maybe I commented in the past, maybe not, I can’t remember. Sometimes it takes me a while to show myself 🙂
IntheFastLane’s last blog post..Ways I am Putting my Student Loans to Good Use
I don’t have a lot of time, so I only bother to read blogs that I feel like I have a “friendship” with at this point. I comment, they comment…I like feedback, what can I say.
Mary Alice’s last blog post..My Home Doth Offend Thee:
The Other Dawn
Oh, I’m not normal. I think we were a lot alike in high school, wondertwin, although I can faithfully assert that even being ON the cheerleading/pom squad does not make you an A kid. I was on both in different years, and there was definitely an A group and a B group even in that small microcosm. Anywho. Blogging.
I try to blogroll people I enjoy reading because I think if my readers like my blog, they might enjoy others that I read, too. Kind of like an Amazon’s “readers of my blog might also like…” Some of them are A listers. Some of them are my friends from HS and college. The point being, I put them out there because I am dillusional to think that folks who read my blog might enjoy some of the things I enjoy. It is not a promotional tool– more of a get to know me.
I’m bad about keeping the blogroll (for example, I have started reading all of these foodie blogs, but I haven’t blogrolled them yet.). But I have NO expectation that anyone on it reciprocate. This is my hobby, and I don’t want to complicate it with bad HS politics. Plus I’m just too busy to get wrapped up in all that. This is supposed to be fun…If they list me or read me, cool. I pee a little everytime Oh the Joys or HBM leave me a comment, because I love their blogs and respect them a lot. But they are just people, too… so… yeah.
2shews’s last blog post..They’re Not Supposed To Talk About It…
Well I’ve only been blogging a few months now, and the feeling I get from the “A” listers is that they have so many comments, mine would just be another one.
But at the same token, if I don’t leave one, they won’t even know who I am.
But I do understand where you are coming from. I was never one of thoes popular girls, but now, 10 years later, I’m sort of proud of that fact.
Rose Daughter’s last blog post..Remember When…
I know what you mean – sometimes I want to be popular like some of the A List bloggers, too. I don’t get many comments anyway, but definitely not from the big name bloggers. I don’t mind so much most of the time, and I read so many blogs now that I only comment if I have something to add to the discussion. My blogroll philosophy is that I add folks who have similar blogs (other moms, other people with mental health issues, similar sense of humor, etc.) or information that I think my readers would find useful. I don’t do the reciprocal blog roll because I don’t want to put someone on my blogroll just because they added mine (I have received the occasional “please add me” from sites that I know wouldn’t appeal to my readers).
I do wonder sometimes why I am blogging when I get so few comments, but thankfully wordpress tracks my traffic for me so I know people are reading. Readers are big these days (I read most things exclusively through a reader) so I try not to worry about numbers too much.
Gosh, this got long. 😛
Ewokmama’s last blog post..Jack in film
I had to go look at my blog roll. I have (mostly) people that I have developed some sort of relationship with (commenting back and forth or actual snail mail contact or even :gasp: real emails from) I read a couple of popular bloggers. One has become semi-boring and the other is so over-the-top with the “tell me I’m pretty” “tell me I’m a good mom” “tell me I’m normal” that it can get tiresome – so I only check those every couple of weeks in case I might have missed something funny.
The key is to comment I think – I met my “blog friends” by commenting daily. On every post. So that now I can slack a bit 🙂
Aimee’s last blog post..A Cruel Cruel World
this sounds like mean spirited, bitter, petty sour grapes to me 😉
I actually only blogroll two people who don’t read me back and it is because I genuinely enjoy their writing so much that I don’t care that they don’t know me.
Flutter’s last blog post..December shapes up nicely (note the literary device known as sarcasm)
Like Flutter, I only have a couple of the ‘popular’ bloggers. I usually blogroll blogs that I think I have something in common with. I love getting comments and so I will try to comment back on anyone who leaves a comment and then if it takes off from there then fine.
I so know what you mean though, blog envy/ cool kid envy, call it what you will. I suffer from it some days but in the same breath I would rather have true community rather than just being part of the in crowd.
Love your blog btw.
P.S. I was the reject at school, the kid everyone liked to tease just for the sake of it. I would have loved to be the smart kid. 🙂
Tiffany’s last blog post..Wordless Wednesday – Year 6 farewell
By the way..I was in ALL the groups in HS..except the black girls..I wasn’t quite welcome.
I have a blogroll but it’s more of a “reader list”. That is what I click to daily to read..plus a few others I haven’t added yet.
There are people I read and comment that NEVER comment on my blog..but I still enjoy reading.
Widelawns..she rarely comments but does occasionally
Dooce..I would be the house she has no clue what an MP is.
She is like a bad habit..she doesn’t have brillant things to say but I’m addicted..it was my first blog.
Ree/Pioneer Woman..she has commented on my comments before but I would never expect her to read my blog
Bossy..I am sure she has never read my blog..she’s never commented but I think she’s clever and will continue to read.
Danny Evans/Dad Gone Made..he has commented on my comments and emailed but I doubt that he has ever read my blog.
Crystal/BI&DrP…has Crystal become A list? I think so..anyway, think she is hysterical..I’m sure she doesn’t know I exsist.
Then of course there is YOU!! And you comment on my site..so yes I have one A lister…OH and Sarcastic Mom..Lotus is an A lister too isn’t she… She comments on my pictures and emails me!!
MP’s last blog post..Blingo Baby!!
Audubon Ron: I’m really dizzy now, thanks!
Great analogy (is that the right word?).
I used to blogroll everyone I read, but now I blogroll the people I honestly like and enjoy that I think deserve my “advertisement” (not that I have a lot of traffic to send their way, it’s just a courtesy). The one REALLY big time blogger (Pioneer Woman) I have on there is on there because I think she’s absolutely fabulous and sweet (even if it can be sickly sweet at times), she’s never commented but she did link to me once (honorable mention in a caption contest). I don’t blogroll people I find offensive or mean, and some people I do like aren’t on there because I just keep forgetting to add them. I don’t do readers because I don’t have the time for a gazillion blogs. I would say most of the people I have on my blogroll have commented on my new or old blog, but it’s not a criteria for inclusion.
I would love to be more popular and make a little extra dough from it, but I’m realistic. I am not an ex-Mormon, I don’t live on a ranch, and I’m not all that interesting. So basically, I’m screwed in the popularity dept and I think I’m okay with that. I like my little niche of readers (all of whom are much more interesting than I), they make me feel all warm and fuzzy!
I have no idea if I answered your question or went off on some completely off-topic tangent, but I do want to say that I think you are well on your way to bloggie popularity.
Natalie’s last blog post..The Birds and the Pees
I use my blogroll for my own selfish purposes, which is to keep up with the blogs I read daily. I know that there are other ways to do this, but I haven’t set up a reader yet. Blog laziness is my only excuse. My roll contains only a few “A listers,” and I’ll admit that I’ve gotten that little “they like me, they really like me” feeling when one of them comments on my blog. I do link to a couple that are more “commercial” in nature in that they’re making some big bucks on ads, and I guess I don’t really expect comments; I just enjoy reading the blogs. WaiterRant is a good example of one of those.
LSM’s last blog post..The Rest of the Decorating Story
My blogroll is all of the people I love to read. Whether they’ve ever commented on my site or not.
There is one A lister that that (because I am human) really hurt my feelings with an email back when I had the ‘nerve’ to mention that she promised a link back/review based on something I had done for her. I still read, because, she still writes well. But I will never, ever, contribute to her cause again. I know others who didn’t have the same kind of experience. So, maybe her excuse was valid, but the way she “dismissed” me will always sting. (Again, because I am human)
There is another A lister that mentioned me twice on her blog. And she emails me. And she comments on some of my writing. And she will always, always, be on my “must read” list. And if she asked for a contribution to a cause, you better believe, if it was in my power, I would jump all over that.
Do I wish that I had the readership that some of you have? Of course. But y’know, sometimes a small group of really good friends is better than a wide circle of acquaintances. And I can respond to each commenter individually. I doubt that some of those bloggers with hundreds of comments are able to do that. But to me, it’s important.
Ree’s last blog post..Amsterdam 2005
Oh, and, I also thought I should mention that there are a few blogs I’ve stumbled upon that have my blog listed in their blogroll but I had no idea because they never comment or anything! So then I feel bad and wonder how long I’ve been on their blogroll and didn’t know about it. 😛 Those people probably think I’m a jerk and really I’m just clueless.
Ewokmama’s last blog post..Jack in film
Mommy off the Record
I created my blogroll when I started blogging almost 2 years ago. It contains a lot of bloggers that I don’t read anymore, but I never update my blogroll. Blogrolls are so political and such touchy subjects, that I just decided to let it sit there and collect dust.
Mommy off the Record’s last blog post..Your Turn to Respond, Similac
cry it out!
I blogroll anyone who will ask, because I’m easy like that. You should see me at happy hour. It’s frightening.
Honestly, I often forget about the thing and rarely update it, although one of the greatest joys of blogging for me is finding someone through someone and reading a really fantastic story — which is the reason I don’t really care who gets on the blogroll. I figure someone may click from my site, find another, click there and presto! A connection in three or four or whatever degrees of separation. That’s the spirit of this experiment, I believe. (I do read new sites before I link to them, however, just to be sure they’re not crazy insane.)
A lot of sites on my roll I don’t read. Some I re-remember upon seeing them and click over. Others I haunt. And we’re talking serious, stand-outside-the-windows-in-the-rain haunt. But I won’t say which ones, because of various restraining orders.
cry it out!’s last blog post..My neuroses; or in which I overdivulge
I have more than one blogroll because I’m a sloppy, clumsy whore.
I will blogroll just about anybody, because I like people. I say I don’t all the time, but I do. I like to help them and make them feel happy. I like it when people are nice to me, so I try to be one more nice person in the world.
I also link up to people who will never see me, think of me, or care that they haven’t done either one. I really don’t care. I link them because I respect, admire, am impressed by, or inspired by something they’ve done (often lots of somethings). No matter how big you get, or how many links you already have, you still deserve another. I have personally come across people who DIDN’T already know about an A-list blogger – you don’t just wake up with a rolodex of them in your head the day you start your own blog after all. So linking them also gives other people an opportunity to discover something they might like.
I also tend to take bits and pieces from other people I encounter and incorporate them into my overall style. When that happens and I’m aware of it, I definitely like to make sure I do at least the small thing of linking to show that my inspiration comes from somewhere else.
And a note on commenting. I have some blogs that I comment loyally and without fail. I might miss days sometimes, but for the most part, I’m always there. Those are generally written by people that I have a special love in my heart for – a connection that is stronger than a link.
Other than that, I read all over the place, sporadically. And I comment whenever I have something to say. And that’s all the time, b/c I have verbal (mental) diarrhea. I don’t care if someone comments me back. That has nothing to do with my commenting behavior. I read, therefore I comment. I don’t use my comments as “rewards” and I don’t withold them as “punishments” for the commenting behavior of others on my posts. I love comments on my posts, of course, but I just don’t like the idea of faking my own comments out in that way.
And I’m babbling on again, so I will run away now….
Sarcastic Mom’s last blog post..OMG, What Happened To My Taint!??
PS: (As if I haven’t said enough already)
I forgot to mention a huge Blogroll Pet-Peeve.
I HATE for someone to judge my taste based on my blogroll, or to act incredulous that I haven’t included a certain blog. Gag. Gag. Gag.
Sarcastic Mom’s last blog post..OMG, What Happened To My Taint!??
OK, my blogroll?
I check out blogs via a reader these days. I start at the top and work my way down as time allows. I read several A-listers, but don’t often comment on them. It’s not so much that they’re big & I’m small — it’s just that while I enjoy reading them, I don’t feel like I really know them. And as a result, commenting feels kind of like barging into a conversation well under way at a cocktail party where I don’t know anybody.
Arkie Mama’s last blog post..‘Tis the season of plague…
Funny thing, this. I had never read one single A-List blog before; not for any good reason, I’m just busy with the ones I like. So, the other day, I headed over to one to see what all the fuss was all about. Honestly, I kinda hated it. It wasn’t funny, or inciteful, or anything. And each post had, like, 900 comments. And that did it for me. I’ll stick to the bloggers I like and follow their links to find more bloggers to like. I have no interest in the popularity contest.
Mr Lady’s last blog post..All I Want for Christmas is Last Christmas
I’m thinking – like what a lot of people echo – I’d rather have a few genuine comments from a caring community of friends in the bloggosphere than 50 of the same thing. But hey we all want to be popular and noticed. Though I love doing a few memes just to be noticed (teehee).
I don’t have a blog roll – don’t know how to do one anyway. I would not want to leave out anyone unintentionally.
I also wouldn’t know how much money people make out of it and I don’t know any A listers – who are they ?
I was never the popular girl or in the IN crowd but I did well enough with my genuine friends.
I like your blog Dawn.
Babyamore (Trish)’s last blog post..Christmas Flashbacks
I don’t have a blogroll anymore, honestly. It just got too political thinking about who was included, who was excluded — and then when I included everyone it was too long! (And I wasn’t using it to browse blogs anymore now that I use a feed reader).
I definitely am read, linked, and e-mailed by some of what you might consider the A-list bloggers, but in most cases it’s because I knew them before they were A list. And now they’ve gone ahead and moved on up and I’m still in my little B/C/D-list corner of the world. Which is OK with me, because I don’t have the guts/time/inclination to take my blog to the next level. My goal is to keep it fun for me.
Nancy’s last blog post..We’re watching Rudolph. AGAIN.
Wow I never thought of this before as I use my blogroll as a way to remember the blogs I try to read regularly. I go to the blogs on my blogroll because they entertain me. I don?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢t expect anyone to link to me so I guess that may be why this has never crossed my mind. I guess I also consider my own blog rather boring as it pertains to my daily life as a mom and wife and is a journal for my boys.
As for comments, sometimes I say something and sometimes I don?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢t. It just depends on if I have something to say or at least feel I do. I?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢m not on top of blog etiquette so the running back and forth is beyond me. I prefer much lower maintenance.
SJSFalter’s last blog post..Evolution Of A Cupcake
Huh. I’m a complete lurker, 99% of the blogs I read (A-list, B-list? I don’t know) I’ve never commented on, and I would be utterly shocked if any of them commented on my blog. It never occurred to me that had anything to do with whether they were on my blogroll or not.
Maybe I’ve misunderstood the significance of a blog roll? I always thought it was supposed to be a list of blogs I read, so if I read a blog, it’s listed there. (That is, when I remember to sit down and sync my blog roll with the blogs in my reader. Really, it’s a list of blogs I was reading whenever I last bothered to update it.)
I also read pretty much EVERY blog of anyone adopting from Taiwan. I never know when there’ll be some bit of information that will turn out to be really helpful down the line. All of them are on my blog roll (even the ones that I don’t read anymore because they stopped posting two years ago), kind of as a public service to other parents adopting from Taiwan, because I’ve found so much good information in the blogrolls of other people adopting from Taiwan.
Molly W.’s last blog post..We’re full up on pity for today, thanks.
FUN with a capital F-U-N topic!!!
I have to admit that I NEVER read others’ comments, but I read every comment in reference to this post, verrrrrry interesting.
I have whomever I want on my blogroll, A-list, B-list…anyone I’ve ever read. With that said, I now use a feed reader, so my blogroll only gets updated when I actually think about it or when someone requests to be on it.
Do these A-listers on my blogroll know me or comment? Some yes, some no. I really don’t care. I’ll admit that when I first started blogging a year ago, I left comments everywhere with the hope that I’d get reciprocal comments. My feelings were often hurt those first few months when I wouldn’t get comments in return. Now I realize that those feelings were silly. My style of writing isn’t for everyone, I shouldn’t feel bad when my writing and my topics aren’t of interest to certain others.
Also, I find myself on quite a few blogrolls of people who have never left me a comment. In these cases, I love to leave them a comment just to see what happens. (Usually nothing.)
I’ve only recently started getting lots of readers. I try very hard to acknowledge new visitors with an email and a visit to their site. It’s becoming increasingly difficult, so I feel guilty and wonder if they think that their comments weren’t appreciated or were just lost in a sea of other’s comments. There is just no possible way to respond and read EVERY SINGLE person. I truly appreciate and value every single comment and visit, though.
In my feed reader, I have a list of people I read everyday. I have a list of people I read everyday but never comment. I have a list of people I visit on Mondays, on Tuesdays…monthly…I am continually adding and deleting people based on how interesting they are to read. My New Year’s Resolution is to start only reading people I really WANT to read and not feel obligated to read others.
Wow. Hey novel writer, how ya doing? Sorry about that, but it’s such a great topic…
Sorry for the incoherence, I just wrote as I thought without coming back to edit…
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A) I don’t read any A-list blog.
B) I doubt any A-listers read mine.
C) I wish I would update my blogroll, but it is time consuming.
D) I was nicknamed “Professor” in High school… Being a black bookworm in a nintey percenmt white school was not the way to populrsity.
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Wow, you are awesome- very funny and you’d fit in to our girls night crowd just perfect. I was ‘everyone’s friend’ in High School, not popular ‘enough’ and not smart at all. I spent more time getting drunk during lunch and wishing most of my teachers would drive off cliffs the following morning. My father was on the School Board (also a small town) so when I cut school one afternoon, my father saw my teacher in the store- end of my life. Beginning of my rebellion. I think I will blog who I like- I don’t know enough yet to be able to see an A lister from a B lister. I’ll blog what I enjoy to share with others who have the same evil thought process as I do….or did. Thank you for the entertainment. You are going on my roll, list (whatever) for certain. You are a blog worth sharing. have a great evening!
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