So, it’s that time of year where everyone thinks about overindulgence. We’ve made it through Black Friday, we’re in the full swing of gift giving holidays. We have neighbors who have holiday crap that has apparently thrown up on their lawn, so covered in decorations it is.
I’ve been loving Unplug Your Kids, even more than usual because she’s been talking about holiday madness and she echoes a lot of how I feel about things. However, she’s way cooler and already at the point of knowing how to make some changes whereas I’m still sitting here going “huh… I’d like to make a change … but first … PIE!”
I grew up between two homes. At Christmas time, we got the gigantic Christmas catalogs and sat down and made lists of what we wanted. The tree was always real, the presents were always piled high. Even if my step-mom had busted her ass getting everything wrapped the night before, for us to just rip apart and throw away bags of paper a few hours later. It was always a Big Deal with presents and such.
My mom’s house was different. We never had a real tree, we had a Norfolk Pine that we’d decorate with little ornaments, and once that tree died after having it for several years, she decorated the mother in law tongue plant. She never asked me what I wanted for Christmas, there were never stacks of presents, I once got to open one present early – and that was my winter coat that I needed to be able to leave the house when we’d gotten a lot of snow.
With the exception of a couple of years, I liked the smaller Christmas much much better.
Now that I’m “the mom” I feel like I’m responsible for Alex growing up with good memories and traditions. Not that Scout doesn’t feel responsible, I just ponder this kind of stuff more than he does.
So, for the next little while, I know I’m going to be talking about the idea of “enough” in my life. I promise it’ll be random 🙂 I know you aren’t surprised.
17 Comments
Veronica
I agree, I want Amy to look back and remember all her Christmas’s fondly whilst trying to recreate them for her own family.
I can only hope I do okay.
Kelli @ Gohn Crazy
You know I’ve been working on this lately as well. I look forward to what is to come on this subject. 🙂 Thanks for sharing that link. Looks like she has some great stuff.
Red
I grew up with big Christmases. All you’d have to do is check out the 15 Christmas trees in my parents’ current house to know what I mean by Big Christmas 🙂
Still, they were always more about tradition than about shopping. Putting up the decorations meant getting them out of the attic and maybe adding a thing or two each year, not wholesale shopping. ribbons and bags were saved. VHS tapes of Christmas movies from TV were shown. Church services and gatherings of friends were attended.
I think for me the holiday “enough” is figuring out what traditions make me happy (whether its having cocoa in pajamas or opening presents in ballgowns) and making them work with my life — hopefully in a way that doesn’t make me crazy.
Kellan
I like the idea of a smaller Christmas. My parents always offered lots of presents and gifts from Santa – and I do it the same way … but, I think my kids don’t need all of it! I think it is time in my house to scale down some of it and get back to the true meaning of Christmas. I’ve been thinking about this a lot this year. Take care. Kellan
Kelly O
I’m trying hard to instill the idea of traditions over stuff for the holidays. Like making our own presents (drawings and cranberry-ginger liqueur for everyone!) and having special dishes at dinner. But I suspect that as the kids get older, we’ll get more consumerist. I hope not, but realistically….
Flutter
random? you? The hell you say!
Ewokmama
We were finally able to get our families to agree that we are only buying for the kids. And I have commissioned my mom to buy Jack his bed, so that narrows down the presents quite a bit. I always felt like xmas is a big let down because there is tons of build up and frenzy over the presents and then you open them and then you are done…so we are working on making things a lot calmer!
MP
I never had a BAD Christmas..I just have a hard time figuring out what memories were good. Right now we’re giving Drew TOO MUCH….but it’s hard to cut back when he’s 8… and still believes Santa is doing everything. I try to tell him that Santa BILLS us for the toys and we don’t have a money tree.. damn, I sounded like my mom.
I love going to Christmas Eve Mass on Christmas..cause that’s what it really is about..right? Christmas caroles, church.. OK I’m hijacking your comment section.. I’m just having a harder than usual time getting in the spirit..
xoxo.. make your holiday enough!!
LSM
My current favorite part of Christmas is the tradition we’ve developed in our own home, exclusive of extended family. On Christmas Eve we go to church then come home for dinner. The kids open one gift from us, which is always new pajamas, and then they settle in to watch “It’s a Wonderful Life.” Then they all sleep together so that they’ll be ready for Santa in the morning.
I’m sure it will change and adapt over time, but it’s an evening we always look forward to, one that’s fairly calm and peaceful in the midst of all the holiday excitement. I am also focusing on a “less is more” philosophy of gift giving this year and trying not to give in to the internal push toward piles of presents.
Mom Unplugged
I hate to break it to you Dawn, but I feel pretty much clueless when it comes to solutions for myself. This calm air of inner peace and wisdom that I project as I dispense advice to others is all a facade!
It is always easier to advise others on their lives than to sort out one’s own life, don’t you think? Just like telling your college roommate to ditch her so- obviously-a-loser boyfriend when you can’t quite manage to ditch your own loser boyfriend.
But somehow talking about problems and possible solutions helps me to feel like I will come to the perfect resolution for our family. I’ll let you know if the epiphany ever arrives.
I look forward to reading more of your thoughts…and hopefully epiphanies!
SJSFalter
Im horrible with going overboard. I grew up with a mom and step father who both thought going overboard was the only way. I wish I could reserve myself, Ive tried but somehow 5 presents turns into 15.
This year we are going to do a popcorn garland, something J did as a child. Im still trying to figure out how to do the cranberry one, Im not sure how long it would last. This may be a Christmas Eve thing. I also want to have S help me make gingerbread ornaments. If we start these things as new traditions I would be very happy.
Jennifer
I think it’s going to be really challenging to find a balance between overindulgence at Christmas and having your children truly understand what Christmas is supposed to be about.
I suspect my own yearnings for lots of “stuff” at Christmas will lead to some very BIG Christmases here.
jen
i love this idea. i love the idea of us standing up to enough.
the egel nest
I love the idea…I wrote about a simpler time a while back…enough is enough 🙂
Bradley
The Egel Nest
Mary Alice
I love random. I love surprises. And I love knowing what is “enough”
Random Ramblings
The ONLY thing that my mom went over board on was Christmas. This was the only time of year that I got anything special. So I have a tenancy to do the same. I know its bad…but I can’t help it. I tend to start thinking about Christmas in July.
I do have a few traditions, one including opening PJ’s on Christmas Eve. And I want to start making a popcorn string to put on the tree… This seems to be easy enough. Not sure how long it will last. Maybe I need to google it! 🙂
Sarcastic Mom
Speaking of “enough,” I’ve eaten so much since Halloween that I’ve gained 7lbs. The muffin-top has risen, man. UGH.
As for Christmas, I like meaningful, peaceful, loving, and fun all wrapped up.
But I’m a sucker for my lights and my real, smelly tree. Gotta have my shiny.