There’s a weird little flip side to the joys of independence.
The times that I can’t fill the role myself. Like listing “in case of emergency” contacts for work.
This week I was supposed to give the admin my emergency contacts. My mom was a no brainer (if a wee bit pathetic feeling) but a second contact . . . I had no idea. I had no “person”. I was crabby and bugged that I gave a shit that I had no easy answer for my “person”.
I have PEOPLE. Beautiful, wonderful PEOPLE. I have ME. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, and you know why I’m bugged by that empty line? I don’t want to bother someone else. That line was like “who do you most want to inconvenience after your mother?”
Scout still has all my legal paperwork rights – which is great because if anything happens to me, it leaves him able to take care of Alex without anything tying his hands. The jokes about how he will sign a DNR for me if I have a hangnail are also pretty entertaining 🙂 As for an “in case of emergency” – well I don’t think nine hours away is a good distance for reacting to emergency.
So it’s weird – the local people, I wouldn’t really want to inconvenience. The people I know would have my back, I don’t know if it’s really practical. And if it’s an emergency, I’m guessing I can’t really take care of myself.
So the line sits blank and waiting for an answer. Waiting for my person. Meanwhile, I’m grateful for all my people.
I’m not your “person” but I would be honored to be your EC. Cos it’s not so much an inconvenience as a privilege.
I wish I lived close enough to be your emergency person!
What an interesting conundrum.
Try and imagine the person you want bringing you clean underwear at the hospital.
Indeed! The “clean underwear at the hospital” test is a good one. 😛
Having moving a few times, I’ve found that asking someone to be your help-when-needed person can help that person become one of your people. It happened when I got married (my maid of honor wasn’t my best friend then, but she is now) and when I gave birth (when a kind soul with whom I’d never been very vulnerable kept me company while my hubby got some food). Maybe this will help you move forward with a local friend.