?Ç¬†(He’s already 6 months old… all of you who are more experienced with this… know that I now join you in being teary watching my baby grow up…)
A while back, I read this post.
Go on, go read it … if I’m borrowing her words I’ll feel okay with it if ya’ll go read what she said first….
Okay. You’re back. Excellent.
When I hold Alex close, I keep looking for the pie smell to him. It’s not so much dessert pie to me… but he’s definitely mine, and I now think of that smell as pie …
Today I sat on the couch, while he napped on me. Because this is the way that he’s rolled when it’s come to naps this week. I watched his red cheek rise and fall with our breathing. I smelled his baby pie-ness. I though about sleep training. I thought about all the people who would roll their eyes at me letting this great big 6 month old sleep on me. All the people who would warn me about bad habits and didn’t I ever want any sleep and wasn’t my marriage simply going to collapse because he’s not a champ sleeper. I wondered if we should work on night weaning, I wondered if we should start solid routines to get him to independent sleep.
Then I thought about how this one little boy has filled our life so completely that we don’t plan to have another one. How each day that passes is a day that we won’t repeat. How each new first is a first and last of what we will celebrate a child of ours accomplishing.
I thought about how we plan to do this once. Once.
I buried my nose gently his baby smell. I decided that in 5 years or 2 years or 3 hours when he’s too busy to sit on my lap, or look at me, or notice I’m in the room, that I’ll never regret this hour on my couch, holding the baby close, knowing he’s safe, acting as pillow, being the mom.
Awwww. You’ve got me all sniffly (and it’s not sinus related). As a mom of one (who will always be an only), I can so relate to what you said. My baby is sixteen. I miss that baby.
Definitely… cherish those moments while you can! I did as much as I could… it goes by much too quickly.
The Other Dawn
Big old fbplfbpflpblfbpflbplf to “sleep training.” Noise co-slept with us from 6 months to 12 months. He was heaven to sleep with (so snuggly!) and it worked for us. When he started to sleep like a toddler, it was back in the crib with him. It only took a couple of days, and very few tears. I often wished when my whirlwind #2 was a baby that we could sleep with her– but she never was a good snuggly sleeper. Even if you had a second, you might not get this chance at pie again. Eat up the pie while it’s there.
The best advice I ever got was from my great-grandma,
“Never wish the time away, and enjoy every minute you get with your little ones…they grow so fast.”
She had 12 kids…
I know exactly what you mean. My “baby” is now 2 1/2.
And I feel like I’m clinging to their ankles as they speed toward big-kidness.
BTW, my daughter was in our bed, still nursing during the night until she turned 1. My son was there 8 months. The memories of all those nights of cuddling with them — they’re among the sweetest ones I have.
I love it. You are so right. I agreeagreeagree… it’s why one of my many mantras is, “Do what’s right for your family and your kid!” Braden was still napping on us periodically at 6 months, and even after that, he slept in bed with me off and on (at night).
Your post reminded me of this part of a response I gave to my friend Tina on her blog asking for help:
“By the way, we DON’T try to put him down when he’s awake. I know what “they” say… but it’s not right for Braden. Maybe it’s not right for Mikey, either. That’s up to you. See, we always hold him until he’s just asleep, and then put him down. Most of the time (98% of the time nowadays) that works great for him. Sure, you have to be willing to do that every night… but I can’t think of a time when I’m not going to WANT to sit with him until he’s asleep like an angel in my arms. One day he won’t let me do that anymore. I think that day will be soon enough for me, thank you very much!”
That day will definitely come soon enough for me. And until then, I’m just going to do what OUR hearts desire!
(I’m a blog-size commenter. Heh. Sorry!)
Don’t ever worry what other people think….enjoy letting your baby sleep on you, take time to smell the baby head….those who are in too big a hurry miss the joy.
This was so beautiful. Enjoy ever single precious moment because it will fly by so fast. Take care. Kellan
Happy unbday little one
I love being the pillow.
Happy 1/2 birthday.
Hydes Like Us
Oh yes. *sigh* That was beautiful.
I remember when Ivan used to wake up in the middle of the night to nurse. I could hardly in-hale deep enough, his little head smelled so fresh and sweet. I remember being exhausted and thinking, “but this is the stuff I want to remember”. It’s bittersweet how those memories seem to fade as fast as I try to hold on to them.
the egel nest
Although my parenting style would conflict with what you did, I respect and admire your connection 🙂
Enjoy it! 🙂
The Egel Nest
See thats how I felt about sleep. Once we hit 6mths everyone I knew was pushing ‘sleep training’ down my throat.
8mths on and Amy is slowly learning how to sleep, with no stress on either of our parts. I don’t regret doing it how I have done it and I doubt I will change when #2 comes along.
Give your little boy a huge hug and watch him sleep. It really is the most peaceful thing to do 🙂
Awww, that’s such a gorgeous post. I love cuddling with my babies too, it’s just the best feeling in the world.