Every day I do things on my own. The mom, the home owner, the teacher, the matriarch, the Dawn. I’m pretty bull headed obstinate stubborn determined to do this thing on my own – equal parts independence and not wanting to be a bother to someone else.
My shower head broke this week – spraying water out the back and the front and making an Alex worthy mess of things. My mom recommended a handy man. I bought a new one and happily discovered I can disconnect and reconnect a shower head in under ten minutes, no tools necessary. And tomorrow I will actually be brave enough to make sure it works!
I bought a television. Been here 6 months, finally have a couch, figured it was time for tv. Got overwhelmed, got a gentleman friend* to tell me exactly what to buy. After specific instructions, several clarifications, and much cranky butt confusion on my part, I have a tv and a blu-ray player all hooked up and functional in my living room. (Apparently I have to buy an HDMI cable and some other … fuck if I know …. cables …. to get the REALLY pretty picture in the moving picture box.)
I picked new sheets for my room, I added a memory foam topper (to try to remedy the fact I hate my mattress), I realized that my bed was now taller than my hip bone and several inches taller than my bedside tables. I disassembled my bed, moved the cats out of the way, moved my under-the-bed storage to by-the-bed storage (for now – it matches my clean laundry still on the floor), moved the cats out of the way, put the box spring on the floor, moved the cats out of the way, got the mattress monkey fucked back on by throwing it around and then sitting on the floor and using my feet to push it where I needed it – and now my bed is several inches SHORTER than my bedside tables – but at least I don’t need stairs to haul myself into bed. The solution to this problem – I’m not sure yet. Ghetto college style cinderblocks? May just be a possibility. Except I’d be the one to have to haul those things around. Screw that.
[*Yeah, I think gentleman friend sounds totally lame too – but APPARENTLY “Captain Calico” isn’t allowed, so you better come up with something ACME Secret Ident Kit worthy sooner or later 🙂 ]
11 Comments
Miss Grace
You are so handy. Can you join my single mothers’ commune?
Maura
I don’t know, I kind of like “gentleman friend.” But then, I’m lame like that.
Regarding the height of your bed, there’s is such a thing as a low-profile bed frame, which might help. (E.g., http://www.thesleepshop.com/store/pc/Low-Profile-Bed-Frames-c31.htm)
I like to do things myself, too, but I will congratulate myself a bit in that I’ve gotten better about just asking for help when I need it. I’ve decided it doesn’t make me weak(er), it makes me smart(er). 🙂
Myra
Beds without frames don’t squeak. I’d leave it on the floor and call it a win-win.
Amanda
The water runs deep with you—strength, resilience, beauty.
xo
Brian
Something I learned over the years is that a $3 HDMI cable from Amazon.com works every bit as good as a $50 one from Best Buy. You would never be able to tell a difference.
They sell little extensions for beds, too, but I have no idea if that would work for you, I like the win/win mentioned already.
Bridget
I’m short. Marshall’s tall. I have a step-stool that I have to use to get into my bed. It’s ridiculous, really.
And as a side note: I love him to pieces, but my man can’t fix a thing. That’s my job around here. Yay for girls gettin’ it done! 🙂
Colleen - Mommy Always Wins
God can I relate with that! There’s just something in me that says “I have to do this BY MYSELF”. And I fully realize how much I sound like my 4yo when I say that. Since moving out on my own, I’ve assembled all sorts of furniture – *including* my boys’ bunk beds!!!
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Al_Pal
I actually like my bed tall…easier to heave creaking bones upright when gravity helps rather than getting in the way!
If you decide to leave it like that for a long time, you may wish to put a barrier between the boxspring and the floor, to protect them from each other–the boxspring from wafting floor minerals, and the carpet from staples on the boxspring.
Feel free to leave it until you flip/rotate your mattress, unless you live in / on a floodplain…Then you might want one of those low-profile bed-frames that Mo mentioned!
woot for the shower head! 😀
Rock it!
Al_Pal
Ahh, no carpet. Good then. 😛
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